Why Setting Short Term Goals Is Bad

We all want to get ahead in life and perform to our maximum best, yet the majority of us fail miserably to achieve their goals. We read self improvement books & articles, trying to understand what are we doing wrong. Why are we failing to achieve our goals. We get really good  general wisdom and lessons from these books, but none is a practical guide on how to achieve our goals.

Goals!!! Maybe you're looking at it from the wrong angle
Yes, it's not setting goals that will help you succeed in life it's building systems. That revelation came to me just a couple of weeks earlier while I was reading this book "How to Fail At Almost Everything and Still Make It Big", one chapter of the book was talking about goals vs. systems, Which is something I didn't find in any of the articles or books I've read earlier, and is what I think was a critical factor in the major change I had in my life. And what follows in this article is based on personal experience & views, and I don't know if there is any science or research that can back this view.

Building systems is good, Why?
My take on building systems, is that it's the easiest way to get ahead in life on your own pace and still feel good about yourself. When building a system you are always tweaking and monitoring how all factors & variables in life contribute to the final result you have in mind. It trains you to always have the end result in mind, and not get lost in the details, yet be flexible enough to change your behavior in a glimpse of an eye if it's not working.

The good thing about building systems (in my opinion) is it's flexibility and realism. Maintaining a system (routine) creates a good secure feeling. Systems that you build for how you spend your days gain performance momentum with time and become easier to maintain.

Short term goals are bad, Why?
If you are a stubborn persistent person, who likes to get things done, setting short term goals would be the perfect masochist way to torture yourself and ruin your enjoyment of the present, the here and now. You are always looking ahead to get to your goal, and you see everything in your life as an obstacle keeping you from getting to your goal, you have already set the goal and it's too late now to change it. and from there it gets worse, you only have two options, option 1 is you achieve your goal and then feel empty, or maybe rejoice for a day or two before you set your next goal and start the cycle of torture all over again. Option 2 is no better, you fail and start feeling as a loser, the emotional impact of not achieving a goal can be devastating for many.

The bad thing about goals (in my opinion) is it's finality, it's rigidness and the worst part is that it is a foolish prediction of what you will be able to do in the future no matter what variables come in to play.

In Conclusion
Goals (in my opinion) can never be short term, "Ending world Hunger", "Eradicating Disease", or "Spreading Education" can all be great life long goals. Losing weight, increasing your income, improving your relationship with others at work or home can never ever be goals. To get ahead in life you don't need to set goals, you need to build systems.

Have comments, suggestions or disagreements, please do not hesitate to leave them in the comments box below. 

Why You Should Count Calories... At Least For A While!

So you have been trying different methods to lose weight or to maintain your weight below a certain number. Yet you either failed or just couldn't keep it up for as long as you should. Well, you are not alone in this many people try and fail if that's any consolation.

One of the ways to do that  is counting calories, I have never understood it, and I always made fun of people who did it, especially when I saw them order a fatty burger and a zero calories diet coke, and made an argument that they are counting calories. Well, I'm a changed man but don't get me wrong I'll still laugh at that argument but now after trying it I truly understand what's it about, and how useful it could be.

So we stuff our faces with different foods around the clock impulsively everyday, especially those chocolates and snacks that are not planned as a meal but they just happen. Counting calories is the best way to consciously counter that behavior.

Getting yourself trained to think before you eat, is the most important aspect of calories counting. It's not about you having to get to a certain number of calories to lose weight. It's about you successfully thinking every time before you eat and then visualizing what the portion of (this piece of food you're going to stuff in your mouth) is to your planned daily intake.

None of what I say here is science, but it's out of personal experience. And I found this a really good technique to consciously control what I eat.

So bottom line, just count calories for a while to train yourself to think and visualize before you eat. and then you don't have to put any effort into it later once you form an idea of how many calories certain foods have. and most importantly eat lots of veggies and fruits for those foods have the best value for calories, and one last thing EXERCISE.

Have any ideas, or comments on staying healthy please share with us in the comments below.  

5 Tips to Help you Build the Habit of Running Daily

This is the first post in a series dedicated for running, In this post I want to share with you tips I found useful to build the habit or running daily:

1- Early to bed, early to rise
Force yourself to wake up early, around 5:00-6:00 AM. This will in turn force you within a week or two to start sleeping early too.

2- Be ready the night before
Have your running clothes all set up next to your bed the night before, so when you wake up you just grab it and go.

3- Eat Carbs
Have a quick small portion of something with carbs to eat, I have a granola bar or fruit yoghurt.

4- A trip to the loo
Visit the bathroom, it's always much easier to run on an empty stomach and it helps you regulate your bowel movements.

5- Stretching, 15 minutes shower, Cold-Hot-Cold Shower
After the run, make sure you stretch properly and take at least 15 minutes to cool off. A Cold-Hot-Cold shower is amazing for refreshing you, relaxing the muscles, reducing inflammation in tendons. After which you will feel as if you didn't run at all.

Repeat 1 to 5 for the coming 30 days, do it no less than 5 times a week. I run Monday,Tuesday, rest on Wednesday then run Thursday, Friday and Saturday and rest on Sunday.
And I find having two days off (spread within the week) really good for rest and doesn't cause you to lose your momentum.

Happy running, have any questions or experiences or tips you want to share leave it in the comments below.

Building a System of Continuous Self Improvement

So I'm not an expert on success, and I'm not the most successful person you will meet in your life. But in the past year or so I have realized that my life needs to change for me to be able to get somewhere with my life, achieve something.

So I started building a system that really transformed the way I live. Again I'm not an expert or anything close to an expert when it comes to productivity or self improvement, but these are the rules I followed, some I have picked from reading different books, some I just came up with and it helped me quiet well:

1- Pay yourself first:
I'm a father of two, and have a demanding job as a product architect and a technology manager in an e-commerce company with long working hours. And I have always found it hard to fit anything in my day. I used to convince myself that I'm a night person, used to sleep and wake-up late. Having that said, I have always thought that as a dedicated employee and a loving father, my job's and off-springs' needs should come before mine.

How wrong I was at that, after suffering from a thyroid disease for 4 years, I thought I'd give it a try and take care of myself first. I started waking up early at 5:30 AM for 5 days a week and go to to the gym; when everyone was sleeping and no one has any claim on my time. Then started reading regularly on my workout off days which is something I haven't done before in my life (since I got used to waking up early).

Now and after only a year, I have my first 4 hours of the day from 5:30 till 9:30 mostly dedicated to me. Building my stamina by exercising and, and my intellectual capacity by reading. And the funny thing is, my off-springs and employer could not be any happier, even when I show up late at work, I'm always fresh and productive. And I enjoy my time with my kids since I clear out the "me time" early in the day, and that makes them enjoy their time with me too.

2- Build good habits:
Building good habits is extremely hard work, but that's only for the first month. After you break the 30 day barrier doing the same thing everyday at the same time, it becomes hard not to do it. Keep that in mind while building habits and it will help you bare through the first adjustment period. Whenever you find your will waning, remind yourself "delayed gratification" is what makes human beings awesome. and it's only a month.

3- Combine the habits into a system:
Don't go changing your life all of a sudden; you will fail miserably. And that's something a friend of mine once told me. I'm the kind of person who used to get impulses to change his life drastically and always failed to do so. The trick is in building a system gradually, build one habit at a time, 2 at max and these two habits need to support each other.

4- Measure, Set Goals & Persevere: 
Don't just go about building habits without having a way to measure how well you're doing. Today technology makes it much easier to measure your performance in nearly everything you do. Set ambitious goals but put a workable plan to achieve it.

At the beginning of last year I thought how hard would it be to run a 1000 Km before the end of the year. It felt and sounded really hard if not impossible, but once broken down it meant, if I managed to run 200 days out of the 365 days in a year and run 5Km each time I would make it. And I set a daily goal of 5 Km. At first sometimes I had to walk to finish the 5Km; now I run faster than I ever did and I run 6-7 Km everyday.

I wanted to read more, and I set a goal of 2 books a month, that's not much and I listen to another 2-3 audible audio books while exercising.

5- Invest in your own well being:
Get yourself accustomed to spending on your good habits, I used to be a smoker for 15 years buying 1-2 packets a day on average, and I always thought that paying 5 USD on a book is expensive. After setting priorities straight I feel happy when spending money now on food supplements, books, running shoes; since I always remind myself that this money is going into building a better me.

6- Honesty with one's self (make no excuses):
We always tend to blame others for our problems and short comings, at least I did. One thing that changed my perspective is the belief that you are responsible for everything that happens in your life. If you want people to treat you well, value you or care about you. You need to start by doing it to them even when you think they don't deserve it. Do not make excuses for yourself, nothing justifies you not following through with your plans. "Argue for your own limitations and they become YOURS". 

Finally, the year is still not over, but nearly there. Following those simple tips above I managed to do the following things this year, and many still to come:

Aspect	Year Start	Year End
Reading Books	1-2 books a year	Over 20 books , and 30 audio books till now.
Running	couldn't do 5Km to save my life	I run 10 Km in 49 minutes, and I have run 1200 Km till now.

An Idea Truely Worth Sharing

Just happened to pass by this video on youtube, and I couldn't help but share it: